无论梦想大小，坚持就能走到
梦想只要能持久，就能成为现实。我们不就是生活在梦想中的吗？
——丁尼生
我有一个朋友叫蒙蒂•罗伯茨，他拥有一座养马场。他让我用他的房子作为举办筹集基金活动的地点。上次我在他那儿时，他跟我说：“我想给你讲一个故事。这要追溯到一个年轻人身上发生的故事，他是一位巡回驯马师的儿子，他的驯马师父亲从马厩到赛马场，从农庄到牧场，负责训练那里的马匹。结果，这个男孩的中学生涯就不断地被中断。当他成为一名高年级学生的时候，老师要求他写一篇文章，内容有关他长大后想成为什么人以及想做些什么。
“那天夜里，他写了长达7页的文章，描述了自己将来有一天能拥有一座养马场的目标。他极其详细地介绍了自己的这个梦想，甚至还画出了一幅200英亩牧场的示意图，在上面标出所有建筑、马厩和跑道的具体位置。然后他又画了一幅面积达4000平方英尺的房屋平面图，这栋房子会坐落在200英亩的梦想牧场上。
“他在这个项目上投入了很多心血，第二天，他把文章交给了老师。两天后，他收到了自己的文章。在第一页上，有一个大大的红色F，并带有一条批注：‘课后来见我。’
“这个怀揣梦想的男孩课后去见那位老师，他问：‘为什么我得了一个F？’老师回答说：‘对于像你这样的小男孩来说，这是一个不切实际的梦想。你没钱，你出身于一个居无定所的家庭，你也没什么才智谋略。要拥有一座养马场需要很多钱，你得买地，你还得为原有的种畜付钱，之后，你将要支付大笔的种马费。你是永远也无法做到的。’随后，老师又补充道：‘如果你针对一个更为实际的目标重写这篇文章的话，我会重新考虑你的成绩的。’
“这个男孩回家苦苦思索了很久，他问自己的父亲他该做些什么。父亲回答说：‘哎，儿子，你必须要在这件事上自己下定决心。不过，我认为这对你来说是一个非常重要的决定。’最终，男孩在一周后交上了同样一篇文章，他根本没做任何更改。他表明：‘你可以保留这个F，而我将继续怀有我的这个梦想。’”
然后，蒙蒂转向聚集的人群说：“我告诉你们这个故事，是因为你们目前正坐在我4000平方英尺的房子里，它就坐落在我这200英亩的养马场中心。我依然留着那份学校论文，把它装在镜框里，挂在壁炉的上方。”他补充道：“这个故事里最精彩的部分是，就在两年前，同一位老师带着30个孩子在我的牧场上露营了一周的时间。当那位老师离开时，他说：‘喂，蒙蒂，我现在可以对你说这些了，当我做你老师的时候，我其实有点儿像一个偷梦人。在那些岁月里，我偷走了很多孩子的梦想。但幸运的是，你有足够的魄力，没有放弃自己的梦想。’”
“不要让任何人偷走你的梦想，无论怎样都要跟随你自己的心。”蒙蒂最后总结道。
I have a friend named Monty Roberts who owns a horse ranch.He has let me use his house to put on fund-raising events.The last time I was there he introduced me by saying: "I want to tell you a story.It all goes back to a story about a young man who was the son of an itinerant horse trainer who would go from stable to stable,race track to race track,farm to farm and ranch to ranch,training horses.As a result,the boy's high school career was continually interrupted.When he was a senior,he was asked to write a paper about what he wanted to be and do when he grew up.
"That night he wrote a seven-page paper describing his goal of someday owning a horse ranch.He wrote about his dream in great detail and he even drew a diagram of a 200-acre ranch,showing the location of all the buildings,the stables and the track.Then he drew a detailed floor plan for a 4,000-square-foot house that would sit on a 200-acre dream ranch.
"He put a great deal of his heart into the project and the next day he handed it in to his teacher.Two days later he received his paper back.On the front page was a large red F with a note that read,'See me after class.'
"The boy with the dream went to see the teacher after class and asked,'Why did I receive an F?' The teacher said,'This is an unrealistic dream for a young boy like you.You have no money.You come from an itinerant family.You have no resources.Owning a horse ranch requires a lot of money.You have to buy the land.You have to pay for the original breeding stock and later you'll have to pay large stud fees.There's no way you could ever do it.' Then the teacher added,'If you will rewrite this paper with a more realistic goal,I will reconsider your grade.'
"The boy went home and thought about it long and hard.He asked his father what he should do.His father said,'Look,son,you have to make up your own mind on this.However,I think it is a very important decision for you.' Finally,after a week,the boy turned in the same paper,making no changes at all.He stated,'You can keep the F and I'll keep my dream.' "
Monty then turned to the assembled group and said,"I tell you this story because you are sitting in my 4,000-square-foot house in the middle of my 200-acre horse ranch.I still have that school paper framed over the fireplace." He added,"The best part of the story is that two years ago that same schoolteacher brought 30 kids to camp out on my ranch for a week.When the teacher was leaving,he said,'Look,Monty,I can tell you this now.When I was your teacher,I was something of a dream stealer.During those years I stole a lot of kids' dreams.Fortunately you had enough gumption not to give up on yours.' "
"Don't let anyone steal your dreams.Follow your heart,no matter what," Monty at last concluded.
敢于梦想，就能实现
一个人要实现自己的梦想，最重要的是要具备以下两个条件：勇气和行动。
——俞敏洪
完美人生是什么样子呢？伯恩•崔西告诉我们，以下四大梦想成就完美人生：
1.健康有活力
人生的第一个大梦就是身体健康、精力充沛。每个人都希望自己健康，远离病苦病痛、精神舒畅、活力无穷。今天的医学发达，人类可以借由良好的规划和调理，活得更健康、更长久。有良好生活习惯的人，比起那些糟蹋自己身体的人，能活得更健康、精力更旺盛。
2.人际关系良好
人生的第二大梦就是完美的人际关系，与亲人、朋友和同事，以及社会上一般人融洽相处、互动良好。我们爱且尊敬他人，而他人也爱且尊敬我们。人们在任何一个人生阶段或居住在任何一个地区是否觉得幸福快乐，其中有85%取决于融洽的人际关系。你与他人相处的情形，他人是否喜欢你、爱你、尊重你，构成了你是否觉得幸福快乐的关键因素。
3.从事自己喜欢的工作
人生的第三个大梦就是做自己喜欢的工作，而且表现出色、薪酬优厚。每个人都希望从事自己喜欢的行业，拥有喜欢的工作、获得升迁、领取丰厚薪水和奖金。不论从事哪一个行业，每个人都希望在每一个职场阶段尽量赚取更多财富。
4.财务独立
人生的第四个大梦就是达到财务独立。你希望能赚取相当数量的财富，一辈子都无须为钱烦恼。走进任何一家餐厅，你可以随心所欲地点餐享用，而无须留意价目表上的数字。
以上四大梦想您完成了多少呢？不管怎样，还是要记住那句话：If you can dream it，you can achieve it！ 敢于梦想，就能实现！
What is a perfect life looks like?Byrne tells us,there are four goals that accomplished a perfect life.
1.Healthy and Fit
The first goal common to all of us is health and energy.We all want to be healthy and fit,to have high levels of energy and to live free of pain and illness.Today,with the incredible advances in medical science,the quality of our health and fitness,and our lifespan,is largely determined by design,not by chance.People with excellent health habits are far healthier,have more energy,and live longer and better than people who have poor health habits.
2.Excellent Relationships
The second goal that we all have in common is to enjoy excellent relationships--intimate,personal or social--with the people we like and respect,and who like,love and respect us in turn.Fully 85% of your happiness will be determined by the quality of your relationships at each stage,and in each area,of your life.How well you get along with people,and how much they like,love and respect you,has more impact on the quality of your life than perhaps any other factor.
3.Do What You Love
The third common goal is to do work that we enjoy,to do it well,and to be well paid for it.You want to be able to get and keep the job you want,to get paid more and promoted faster.You want to earn the very most that is possible for you at each stage of your career,whatever you do.
4.Achieve Financial Independence
The fourth goal we all have in common is to achieve financial independence.You want to reach the point in life where you have enough money so that you never have to worry about money again.You want to be completely free of financial worries.You want to be able to order dinner in a restaurant without using the price listings to determine what you want to eat.
勇敢成为你想成为的人
人的一生中，最光辉的一天并非是功成名就的那天，而是从悲叹与绝望中产生对人生的挑战以勇敢迈向意志的那天。
——福楼拜
我们的勇气并不是与生俱来的，我们的恐惧也不是。也许有些恐惧来自你的亲身经历，别人告诉你的故事，或你在报纸上读到的东西。有些恐惧可以理解，例如在凌晨两点独自走在城里不安全的地段。但是一旦你学会避免那种情况，你就不必生活在恐惧之中。
恐惧，哪怕是最基本的恐惧，也可能彻底粉碎我们的抱负。恐惧可能摧毁财富，也可能摧毁一段感情。如果不加以控制，恐惧还可能摧毁我们的生活。恐惧是潜伏于我们内心的众多敌人之一。
让我来告诉你我们面临的其他5个内在敌人。第一个你要在它袭击你之前将其击败的敌人是冷漠。打着哈欠说：“随它去吧，我就随波逐流吧。”这是多么可悲的疾病啊！随波逐流的问题是：你不可能漂流到山顶去。
我们面临的第二个敌人是优柔寡断。它是窃取机会和事业的贼，它还会偷去你实现更美好未来的机会。向这个敌人出剑吧！
第三个内在的敌人是怀疑。当然，正常的怀疑还是有一席之地的，你不能相信一切。但是你也不能让怀疑掌管一切。许多人怀疑过去，怀疑未来，怀疑彼此，怀疑政府，怀疑可能性，并怀疑机会。最糟糕的是，他们怀疑自己。我告诉你，怀疑会毁掉你的生活和你成功的机会，它会耗尽你的存款，留给你干涸的心灵。怀疑是敌人，追赶它，消灭它。
第四个内在的敌人是担忧。我们都会有些担忧，不过千万不要让担忧征服你。相反，让它来警醒你。担忧也许能派上用场。当你在纽约走上人行道时有一辆出租车向你驶来，你就得担忧。但你不能让担忧像疯狗一样失控，将你逼至死角。你应该这样对付自己的担忧：把担忧驱至死角。不管是什么来打击你，你都要打击它。不管什么攻击你，你都要反击。
第五个内在的敌人是过分谨慎。那是胆小的生活方式。胆怯不是美德，而是一种疾病。如果你不理会它，它就会将你征服。胆怯的人不会得到提拔，他们在市场中不会前进，不会成长，不会变得强大。你要避免过分谨慎。
一定要向这引起敌人开战。一定要向恐惧开战。鼓起勇气抗击阻挡你的事物，与阻止你实现目标和梦想的事物作斗争。要勇敢地生活，勇敢地追求你想要的事物并勇敢地成为你想成为的人。
We are not born with courage,but neither are we born with fear.Maybe some of our fears are brought on by your own experiences,by what someone has told you,by what you've read in the papers.Some fears are valid,like walking alone in a bad part of town at two o'clock in the morning.But once you learn to avoid that situation,you won't need to live in fear of it.
Fears,even the most basic ones,can totally destroy our ambitions.Fear can destroy fortunes.Fear can destroy relationships.Fear,if left unchecked,can destroy our lives.Fear is one of the many enemies lurking inside us.
Let me tell you about five of the other enemies we face from within.The first enemy that you've got to destroy before it destroys you is indifference.What a tragic disease this is! "Ho-hum,let it slide.I'll just drift along." Here's one problem with drifting: you can't drift your way to the to of the mountain.
The second enemy we face is indecision.Indecision is the thief of opportunity and enterprise.It will steal your chances for a better future.Take a sword to this enemy.
The third enemy inside is doubt.Sure,there's room for healthy skepticism.You can't believe everything.But you also can't let doubt take over.Many people doubt the past,doubt the future,doubt each other,doubt the government,doubt the possibilities nad doubt the opportunities.Worse of all,they doubt themselves.I'm telling you,doubt will destroy your life and your chances of success.It will empty both your bank account and your heart.Doubt is an enemy.Go after it.Get rid of it.
The fourth enemy within is worry.We've all got to worry some.Just don't let conquer you.Instead,let it alarm you.Worry can be useful.If you step off the curb in New York City and a taxi is coming,you've got to worry.But you can't let worry loose like a mad dog that drives you into a small corner.Here's what you've got to do with your worries: drive them into a small corner.Whatever is out to get you,you've got to get it.Whatever is pushing on you,you've got to push back.
The fifth interior enemy is overcaution.It is the timid approach to life.Timidity is not a virtue; it's an illness.If you let it go,it'll conquer you.Timid people don't get promoted.They don't advance and grow and become powerful in the marketplace.You've got to avoid overcaution.
Do battle with the enemy.Do battle with your fears.Build your courage to fight what's holding ou back,what's keeping you from your goals and dreams.Be courageous in your life and in your pursuit of the things you want and the person you want to become.
人生最艰难的一课，就是学会相信自己
先相信自己，然后别人才会相信你。
——罗曼•罗兰
4岁那年在大西洋城，我从货场一辆火车上摔下来，头先着地，于是双目失明。现在我已经32岁了，我还模糊地记得阳光是多么灿烂，红色是多么鲜艳。能恢复视觉固然好，但灾难也能对人产生奇妙的作用。
有一天我突然想到，倘若我不是盲人，我或许不会变得像现在这样热爱生活。现在我相信生活，但我不能肯定如果自己是明眼人，会不会像现在这样深深地相信生活。这并不意味着我宁愿成为盲人，而只是意味着失去视力使我更加珍惜自己其他的能力。
我认为，生活要求人不断地自我调整以适应现实。人愈能及时地进行调整，他的个人世界便愈有意义。调整绝非易事。我曾感到茫然害怕，但我很幸运，父母和老师在我身上发现了某种东西——可以称之为活下去的潜力吧——而我自己却没有发现。他们激励我誓与失明拼搏到底。
我必须学会的最艰难的一课就是相信自己，这是基本条件。如做不到这一点，我的精神就会崩溃，只能坐在前门廊的摇椅中度过余生。相信自己并不仅仅指支持我独自走下陌生的楼梯的那种自信，那是一部分。我指的是大事：是坚信自己虽然有缺陷，却是一个真正的有进取心的人；坚信在芸芸众生错综复杂的格局当中，自有我可以安身立命的一席之地。
我花了很长时间才树立并不断加强这一信念。这要从最简单的事做起。有一次一个人给我一个室内玩的棒球，我以为他在嘲笑我，心里很难受。“我不能使这个。”我说。“你拿去，”他竭力劝我，“在地上滚。”他的话在我脑子里生了根。“在地上滚！” 滚球使我听见它朝哪儿滚动。我马上想到一个我曾认为不可能达到的目标：打棒球。在费城的奥弗布鲁克盲人学校，我发明了一种很受人欢迎的棒球游戏，我们称它为地面球。
我这一辈子给自己树立了一系列目标，然后努力去达到，一次一个。我必须了解自己能力有限，若开始就知道某个目标根本达不到却硬要去实现，那不会有任何好处，因为那只会带来失败的苦果。我有时也失败过，但一般来说总有进步。
I lost my sight when I was four years old by falling off a box car in a freight yard in Atlantic Cityand landing on my head.Now I am thirty-two.I can vaguely remember the brightness ofsunshine and what red color is.It would be wonderful to see again,but a calamity can dostrange things to people.
It occurred to me the other day that I might not have come to love life as I do if I hadn't beenblind.I believe in life now.I am not so sure that I would have believed in it so deeply,otherwise.I don't mean that I would prefer to go without my eyes.I simply mean that the loss of themmade me appreciate the more what I had left.
Life,I believe,asks a continuous series of adjustments to reality.The more readily a person isable to make these adjustments,the more meaningful his own private world becomes.Theadjustment is never easy.I was bewildered and afraid.But I was lucky.My parents and myteachers saw something in me —a potential to live,you might call it ——which I didn't see,andthey made me want to fight it out with blindness.
The hardest lesson I had to learn was to believe in myself.That was basic.If I hadn't been ableto do that,I would have collapsed and become a chair rocker on the front porch for the rest ofmy life.When I say belief in myself I am not talking about simply the kind of self-confidencethat helps me down an unfamiliar staircase alone.That is part of it.But I mean somethingbigger than that: an assurance that I am,despite imperfections,a real,positive person thatsomewhere in the sweeping,intricate pattern of people there is a special place where I canmake myself fit.
It took me years to discover and strengthen this assurance.It had to start with the mostelementary things.Once a man gave me an indoor baseball,I thought he was mocking meand I was hurt."I can't use this," I said."Take it with you," he urged me," and roll it around."The words stuck in my head." Roll it around!" By rolling the ball I could hear where it went.Thisgave me an idea how to achieve a goal I had thought impossible: playing baseball.AtPhiladelphia's Overbrook School for the Blind I invented a successful variation of baseball.Wecalled it ground ball.
All my life I have set ahead of is a series of goals and then tried to reach them,one at a time.Ihad to learn my limitations.It was no good to try for something I knew at the start was wildlyout of reach because that only invited the bitterness of failure.I would fail sometimes anywaybut on the average I made progress.
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——五月天