Whatever the situation that's causing you a crisis of self-confidence, you can help yourself immeasurably by holding yourself to your own standards alone. Otherpeople have different values from you, and however hard you try, you'll never please everyone all of the time. Don't worry that people will think you're too overweight, un-derweight, too feckless, too boring, too frugal, too frivolous Hold yourself to your standards, not some imagined standards belonging to others. And remember that commonly-held values and standards vary from society to society: you don't have to accept them just because the people around you do
People's values define what they want personally, but morals define what the so-ciety around those people want for them. Certain behaviors are considered to he desir-able by a given society, while others are considered to he undesirable. For the most part, however, morals are not written in stone, or proclaimed by God above, but in-stead reflect local sensibilities. Different societies have different ideas about what is acceptable and not acceptable.
不管是什么情况所导致的自信危机，我们都可以进行最大限度地自我调节，使自己坚持自己的价值认定标准。每个人的价值观是不同的，不管我们怎么努力，都不可能永久取悦身边每个人。对于他人的想法——诸如别人会认为我们过于肥胖、瘦弱无力、沉闷无聊、过分简朴、口气轻率等，根本不必在意。坚持自我价值认定标准，而不是他人的价值认定标准。……
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