珍妮弗-吉尔胡尔（Jennifer Gilhool），中文名何芮莎，全球10强企业高管、作家、律师、演讲家；女权主义者、铁人三项选手、葡萄酒爱好者和美食家；同时也是女儿、妹妹、妻子、三个孩子的母亲。

    Jennifer是福特公司一位处于上升期的企业高管，在被派驻上海后，为了工作她把在地球另一端的家搬到了上海，她们从美国出发，经过几万英里的旅程来到上海，突然有一天，她发现女儿与自己渐行渐远了。重归家庭就意味着失去自己的事业，或者说是意识到她从未把它放在苐一位。珍妮弗以朋友的口吻向读者讲述了她在家庭和事业平衡上的发现之旅。在美国历史蕞悠久、规模蕞大的公司之一福特，她探寻桑德伯格的理念“向前一步”真正内涵的旅程充满了欢笑与泪水。

　　《贤妻&女汉子养成记》：
　　我已经注意到，我的埋怨和橄榄球俱乐部有直接的关系。中国的生活经历已经帮我去除了这种坏习惯了。
　　坏消息是我不能够观看圣母美式橄榄球的现场直播；好消息也还是我不能够观看圣母美式橄榄球的现场直播。今早我观看了一阵，对此感到彻底地厌恶。
　　杰克正站在房子里如履薄冰（我们现在的教练来自中密歇根大学，杰克的母校，如果事情没有处理好的话，杰克将会承担过错。）但是，我的抱怨水平降低至1988年橄榄球赛季的淡季（那是最后一次我们赢得了全国锦标赛冠军）。
　　然后我想到一个直接的事情，我不想去观看搏击比赛，我想在未来这三年里，我们彻底地重返荣耀，这是对每个人最好的事。
　　既然我已经越说越远了，以下的文字为你们进行更新：过山车会上去，因此，它也一定会下来。这是过去两周的总结，孩子们的适应期，还有这边的通讯信号等一切事情都步入了正轨。在上个星期，我和杰克在用完晚餐后，感觉良好，并且听到亨利谈论他怎样阻止敌方踢进两球，贝拉交了三位新朋友，还有简的戏剧老师是如此的酷，以致于简决定去尝试校园剧。
　　我们感觉良好是因为我们有能力去如此灵活地熟知孩子们的转变，于是我们去往屋顶的露天平台，在那里品尝了一瓶葡萄酒，并且度过一个令人愉快的夜晚。
　　第二天早晨，宿醉冲昏头脑。三个孩子都跟我抱怨起，在中国没有他们自己的朋友，学校的生活很艰苦，有太多的家庭作业，我们也没有学习过中文，没有人跟我谈话或者跟我玩，老师们讨厌我，等等。甚至连狗狗也不开心，还拒绝去巴士站散步——可能是因为中国人说话声音太大了。
　　然而去巴士站还有很长一段路要走——这次没有带狗狗。这些小逃兵们自己秘密地谈论着，当他们走到瓦尔登和她丈夫面前。他们肯定在策划逃跑。
　　的确，简已经说出从她开始“有机会去中国看看”到“讨厌它”再到现在“渴望”立即返回美国。当然，另外两个孩子在跟她谈判安全通行的问题。我们不得不告诉阿姨（女管家）和司机必须时刻提高警惕。肖申克的“监狱逃跑计划”无疑在慢慢的酝酿中进行着。
　　坦白说，我跟杰克想的是，我们自己先前往美国，然后把这三位小逃兵和狗狗留在上海。
　　前面的两位小逃兵上了他们的“监狱巴士”，我们从第三位的口中得知了一些真相。“那么，学校真的那么差劲吗？”瓦尔登问。“不，我还是有一点喜欢学校的，”最小的逃兵回答道，并义无反顾地骑车去学校。
　　也许圣母橄榄球赛不是唯一让我抱怨的事情。
　　……

目录

第一部分：一个美国家庭移居到中国

五个人的中国之旅······························1

狗狗去上海·································5

“政治犯人”被释放·····························7

中国式“天堂”亦是“地狱”·························8

啊，玛莎··································15

噢，玛莎Ⅱ·································19

忍住····································21

一大袋的钱·································25

爱丽丝···································29

五号台风··································35

开幕日···································40

出租车···································45

懒虫····································53

感恩节···································57

幸福融化期·································62

新年的钟声在回荡······························69

第二部分：蜕变

亲爱的妈妈··································71

安娜贝拉···································75

安娜贝拉Ⅱ··································81

十分有意思的情人节······························93

朋友（“Peng you”或Friend）·························101

爸爸，请您原谅我·······························106

你们到底上哪儿去了······························111

第二年····································115

神奇女侠···································119

泼妇·····································123

魅力·····································126

小本经营在上海································131

治愈周日晚综合征·······························137

亚洲风格的商务旅行······························141

穿什么衣服去吃午饭······························145

你的配乐是什么································148

姐妹们····································155

我与阿姨及中国的安装工人···························161

12小时····································167

最有影响力的······亲爱的妈妈······················172

在北京的45分钟································175

如果它是被禁止的·······························181

把我们的头撞到了墙上·····························186

又年长了一岁&身负债务·····························192

激情·····································198

快车道······慢车道····························203

接下来会怎么样呢································208

外籍人士的漫步团队·······························214

竞争的欲望···································220

你已经准备好······踢足球了吗·······················226

太多信息量······在此基础上乘以50·····················229

匿名的看法···································236

非常非常地······欢乐欢乐·························241

争取女性的投票权·································248

房子的积分：两个威廉姆斯的故事··························256

台湾地区，印度，澳大利亚······与家·····················259

来自上海风格的百万金臂······························262

找不到感觉····································266

冥想·······································269

父母亲的限制···································272

被拒绝登机····································277

最后一杯葡萄酒··································283

领导能力，勇气&魅力 ·····························290

高跟鞋，药丸&酒··································298

又到了每年的这个时候······我的意思并不是指圣诞节··············304

12月12日·····································310

12月16日·····································316

第三部分：解开心中的疙瘩&几乎精神崩溃

命运与定数····································319

简单的快乐····································324

我最喜欢的事情··································329

时间·······································334

变幻之风·····································337

相信·······································340

复活·······································344

思乡之情·····································347

忐忑不安·····································350

忘记耶稣，你会做什么·······························353

我想告诉你们一个故事·······························356

绝望和愤怒的杂想·································364

长裤子······································370

27天·······································374

龙年的尾巴····································379

被遗弃的人····································386

纠结杂乱·····································393

第四部分：向前一步&继续前进

任务1······································397

任务2之一年后··································403

任务3之处在十字路口·······························407

现在该怎么办··································415

选择和权利···································419

导游芭比····································424

空间······成功······现实······看法··············431

为什么·····································447

举起你的手来··································450

你会问自己什么样的问题呢····························457

平等的语义···································467

全球身份代号··································477

泳池边的会谈··································480

春天的宿务岛··································484

后记······································487

致谢······································490